Drama Queens – Best not to Become One

What actually is a Drama Queen? Getting caught up in ‘seemingly harmless’ gossip is a good way to become deeply involved in drama and to even qualify as a Drama Queen – so are you one or in danger of becoming one?

Do you nurture stories by getting involved in so called harmless gossip (no such thing when you think about it)? Frankly, the energy any of us put into embellishing whatever it is, contributes heavily to making whatever it is, so much worse. That energy is also wasted!

There is definitely a better way for us all to spend our time – to live our lives!

Do you get heated and insist on arguing about whatever you feel is either “right” or is “wrong”? Does it really matter one way or the other? After all even if you feel 100% sure of your point of view – it is just that – your point of view, isn’t it?

It could be right or it could be wrong. Maybe you can say, “I can prove I am right and they are wrong” – that said, even if you are 100% correct, does it matter that much, is it so crucial that you be proved right? Because it just makes the other person (and it could be either a good friend or a work colleague) feel either embarrassed or bad about themselves (or both, or worse).

It is not often easy, but all of us need to stop criticising and judging others – spend the time, you would have invested in doing that, in creating your own exciting, creative and uplifting life.

I, at times, due to a number of stressful and challenging life situations, have taken my feelings out on others – well I used to anyway. NOW if I am beginning to feel that way I detach myself from their company by way of taking a walk, counting to 10 (or 20, 30 or 40 sometimes even more).

There is an extremely simple rule of thumb to use when you may sense you are on the verge of becoming a drama queen and treading on people’s feelings.

Before you say anything stop, and ask yourself two very simple questions;

  1. Is it necessary to say this to them – in other words will this assist them (as well as you maybe)?
  2. Is it kind to say this to them?

If the answer to both is YES – open your mouth and say it!

If the answer is a “No” do not say a word.

You will notice not only a difference in your life but in the lives and interactions of those around you – mark my works – try it!

Am I becoming boring?

I began to wonder the other day that people might be beginning to find me boring – don’t know why but once the idea got into my mind – I didn’t seem to be able to get it out!

Silly probably but it was there. Being boring is not just about who you are as an actual person but how you present yourself.

As I felt I needed to rid myself of these thoughts – because we all know if you think about something long enough that is what you become – I put a few points to myself instead of just ignoring the whole thing.

Maybe I am crazy – well ditsy (as many people have already said I am) but I think the best way to beat something is to get to the bottom of it!

SO, here are a few points that I put to myself (don’t laugh) and then answered (don’t laugh again).

  1. Interesting people are those that like to have conversations whereas boring people more often than not avoid them, don’t they?
  2. Boring people enjoy their own comfort too much usually.
  3. Well informed people are not boring
  4. Non-boring people like to explore, to challenge to get out there and boring people just want to stay put.

Now how I answered them – truthfully too – I promise you!

  1. I love to have different conversations and rarely, if ever, avoid having them.
  2. I am not really into remaining comfortable.
  3. Well-informed on a number of subjects is my middle-name (well almost).
  4. I love to explore – as hard as it is at time I am into pushing through my comfort zone!

Obviously I am not in the least boring!

Sometimes It Really Is Best To Take a Tour

I used to think those people who took tours, rather than to strike out on their own when travelling, were too frightened to take a chance, too wary to really look around! That they missed out on so much! NOW I am not so sure.

A friend of mine who is both daring and adventurous said to me that it is plain common sense sometimes to do a tour to get the very best out of a new place, a new city, a new state or a new country – and often for good reason. Sometimes for security reasons but often because you will miss too many sites and treats!

The plain truth is that sometimes it simply is not sensible or easy to do it all by yourself. The fact is that there are pockets of the world where you will get so much more out of the experience by sitting back, relaxing and allowing someone else to escort you through all the best places and at the right tempo!

She suggested to me that there are particular countries that it definitely is better to do tours (at least on your first trip anyway).

Cuba would be one. I am told that Cuba has recently lifted many of its travel restrictions, opening it up for the first time in many many years which is fabulous!

Although it currently lacks some of the basic amenities for most tourists, it is truly a beautiful and fascinating place – according to my friend.

Central Australia – fascinating place (my friend has been there too). Even locals can become befuddled by the distances. Driving from South Australia across the Nullarbor is certainly an experience I am told – there are hundreds of kilometres of flat straight road but you wont get bored!

This is one where you will get so much more by doing a tour with an experienced guide.

Scotland – been to Scotland of course. They do speak English (with a rather difficult to understand accent in some quarters) but if you are into the literary side of things – definitely do a tour. Even more so if you are a Harry Potter fan.

Tanzania – one country I have wanted to visit for years and years – so wildlife rich. It is one country I really wish to take the kids to as well.

You should not even contemplate going to the stunningly beautiful and exciting Serengeti without a guide.

Don’t know why I have been raving on a bit on this subject but having made the “I want to do it all myself” travel mistake years ago, I don’t want to see other people miss out I suppose?

What Does a Marriage Need to Survive?

Many many people have thrown up different ideas over the years (probably more like centuries) about what a marriage needs to not only survive but be a happy and enjoyably long one – so why not me too?

Well not just me, but the result of a few views shared over a luncheon table, when a few friends and I got together recently at a Ladies Luncheon (all involved have been married for a minimum of 8 years).

So here they are, the ideas that is:

  1. Truly choosing to be in the relationship as opposed to being in it because either; (a) you hate the idea of being alone, (b) you don’t want to be called an old maid, or (c) that horrible one – “obligation”.
  2. Physical Attraction – this is important between two people, it helps you go the distance. Not talking about the original lusting after here but being with that someone that still attracts you to them after that love-at-first-sight thing wears off! And believe me it does!
  3. IMPORTANT – the ability to be able to express anger directly – in other words open communication whatever the situation and/or problem.
  4. Having similar interests, values, beliefs and even goals – holding the same primary values is absolutely vital – no way around that unless you want disaster to fall upon you.
  5. ANOTHER IMPORTANT ONE – the ability to laugh and have fun together. Also the ability to cry and express sadness together.